Is it ok to want alone time in motherhood?

I have never met a mom who doesn’t want alone time.

All the demands. The needs. The little hands. The problem solving. The noise. The givinggivinggivinggiving…

So, let’s start with the punch line….

YES. Not only is it ok, it is necessary.

But so often moms who suddenly have time to themselves wonder: What do I even want to do?

Or maybe… the guilt lingers. More times than I can count, I have had moms tell me that they worry that if they actually take the time to themselves - like, really take a break - everything is going to fall apart.

So, they don’t.

But, dear reader, you must.

Here’s the thing - for your child to fully trust you, YOU need to trust you.

And for you to fully trust you, you need to KNOW you.

And for you to know you, you need to spend time alone.

A few weeks ago, I pulled up my brave pants and took some time alone. 6-days, actually. I walked 87 miles through southern Japan. Now, look - my girls are teenagers and are really completely fine when I’m not home and most of you won’t take off for 6-days in the south of Japan, but I will tell you this…

Even an hour of quiet, in nature or alone some place comforting, will bring you closer to what matters most and remind you of what you are grateful for.

I’ve decided to share some of the photos from my trip here with you. And if you would like to settle in and watch an 8-minute video that I made, you can watch that here.

And I encourage you, before the week is over, to take some time alone. Prioritize yourself. Ask for what you need to make it happen and then settle in.

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