One of the first things that any therapist or research psychologist will tell you is that feelings are wise. They will also they tell you that denying them, stuffing them down, or trying to change them, will backfire. Every time. And then they will remind you that the key to mental health is learning how to feel those emotions fully, pleasant or unpleasant, because feelings or emotions (often described as energy-in-motion) move.

This month’s mom-to-mom blog post is generously written by Sarha Cahoon, mom, and founder of love for lily, a nonprofit that supports parents through NICU experiences.

I wonder how many of you can empathize with this particular Mack Truck. You have been cruising about in your life. You are an adult and have finally found a way to feel in control of your identity and you are feeling pretty darn good about yourself.